Most of us can still remember the shock at seeing reports of out-of-control bushfires claiming so many lives and homes back in February 2009.

As we look back with sorrow 10 years on, it remains a horrible event that those involved will never forget.

The stories of friends, families, neighbours and even complete strangers reaching out in support could easily bring you to tears.

The deaths of Mudgegonga couple John and Sue Wilson, who died trying to defend their home, rocked the North East.

Neighbour and friend Pat Easterbrook still remembers the comfort she got after receiving letters of condolence from primary school children.

Sometimes it can be the small things that make a big difference, and country areas know how to offer comfort better than most.

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A smiling face and the offer of sandwiches and cake can go a long way to help in the moment.

In this case 10 years ago, those with a desire to help out spent a lot of time ensuring food was provided to victims and firefighters.

But long term, we know the impact of the fires have been life-changing.

We should be thankful there were no strong winds during the Border’s record heatwave in January, or we may have been facing that same threat again.

It is interesting that official events marking the Black Saturday anniversary have been held earlier in the week, not today, so those affected can mark the occasion in their own quiet way if they wish.

We all deal with grief in different ways – some seek the comfort of others, some want to be alone – so it is a credit to the Victorian government that the decision has been left to individuals.

A range of emotions will be brought up again today and a small touch of kindness may be just what someone needs.

To those feeling particular sadness today, there are many people across the Border who are with you.

For support contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 

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